No one changes unless they want to

No one changes unless they want to; even if you beg them‚ reason with them‚ reason or show them love‚ at the end of the day they chose what they want.

Many times‚ in my previous relationships I have always thought I’m the one that’s at fault and I’m the one with the toxic trait.

I always felt I am always the one at fault for the changes between us; realization hit me late though when I found out that people only change because they want to.

My first ex was the best human I ever met; I was willing to tie the knots with him if ever asked. I loved him with everything in me and I loved how things were between us we were the perfect couple; I couldn’t ask God for me.

Few months into our relationship; distance and less communication started creeping in slowly between us. At first, I thought it was just me reacting not until it became obvious our relationship was falling apart.

We always talked lengthily whenever we are on a call‚ but these days it always looked like I was boring him with my numerous calls.

I thought I was just being clingy and needed to work on myself and unnecessarily overthinking.

It was a few months after I found out the guy I loved has changed totally from what I knew; he moved from womanizing‚ smoking and partying late.

I thought I was a bad woman and pushed him too hard as that was how he made me feel; not until I realized people change not because of you; they did it because they wanted to; I moved on.

One Comment on “No one changes unless they want to”

  1. You are so right! It always seem good I’m the beginning but after some years things seem to change. That’s why I have to keep growing and moving and breathing and praying.

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